FF/EMT Sam
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I work for a volunteer agency. Although all of us have had a problem with a partner at some time or another, I'm at my rope's end for what to do with a problem that I'm having.
"Sarah" and I have run a lot of calls together. We are both EMT-Bs and usually get together very well. We are friends, not just partners. However, the agency that we work for is very much a "good ol' boy's club," and Sarah very accurately perceives some of the prejudice that is targeted at her because she is female. However, she also can be hypersensitive to this prejudice and takes offense to stuff that wasn't targeted at her. Despite some of this prejudice, she was recently promoted and is now my supervisor.
Case in point: Several days ago, we were in a patient's house. Sarah claims that she asked me a question, but if she did, I didn't hear her. At the same time, a fmaily member asked me if he should move a chair out of the way of the stretcher, and if he moved it, would it be in our way. I replied, (in a friendly, relaxed tone), "Don't worry about it, just move it."
We start transporting the patient to the hospital, with Sarah in the front and me in the back. Transport was uneventful, but on the way back to the station, she chewed me out in front of the other 2 crew members for being rude and insubordinate. Turns out that she's convinced that I answered her question (which I never even heard) with "Don't worry about it, just do it." I explained what happened, but she didn't believe me. It ended with me explaining that that's not how I talk, and that I don't think that I said it, but if I did, I was sincerely sorry.
I thought that would be the end of it, but a few days later, we responded to a call together, with her giving me some very heavy-duty silent treatment. Before the ambulance left the station, I offered no fewer than three times to stay back if she didn't want me on the ambulance. We arrive on scene and an EMT student and I start getting vitals, SAMPLE, etc. from the patient while Sarah and the driver got the stretcher. When she walked in the house, I gave her a sheet of paper with the vitals and SAMPLE on it. She replied, in front of the patient, the crew, and her mother, (who is also a good friend of mine and holds a senior position in the county EMS system), "You don't need to be on the ambulance right now. Just go." She threw away the piece of paper and went through SAMPLE/vitals again. I had to walk about a half mile back to the station.
Here's how I see it:
--I screwed up by not just apologizing and getting it over with, even though I didn't do anything.
--She screwed up by repeatedly letting her anger at me interfere with patient care.
What would you do in my shoes?
"Sarah" and I have run a lot of calls together. We are both EMT-Bs and usually get together very well. We are friends, not just partners. However, the agency that we work for is very much a "good ol' boy's club," and Sarah very accurately perceives some of the prejudice that is targeted at her because she is female. However, she also can be hypersensitive to this prejudice and takes offense to stuff that wasn't targeted at her. Despite some of this prejudice, she was recently promoted and is now my supervisor.
Case in point: Several days ago, we were in a patient's house. Sarah claims that she asked me a question, but if she did, I didn't hear her. At the same time, a fmaily member asked me if he should move a chair out of the way of the stretcher, and if he moved it, would it be in our way. I replied, (in a friendly, relaxed tone), "Don't worry about it, just move it."
We start transporting the patient to the hospital, with Sarah in the front and me in the back. Transport was uneventful, but on the way back to the station, she chewed me out in front of the other 2 crew members for being rude and insubordinate. Turns out that she's convinced that I answered her question (which I never even heard) with "Don't worry about it, just do it." I explained what happened, but she didn't believe me. It ended with me explaining that that's not how I talk, and that I don't think that I said it, but if I did, I was sincerely sorry.
I thought that would be the end of it, but a few days later, we responded to a call together, with her giving me some very heavy-duty silent treatment. Before the ambulance left the station, I offered no fewer than three times to stay back if she didn't want me on the ambulance. We arrive on scene and an EMT student and I start getting vitals, SAMPLE, etc. from the patient while Sarah and the driver got the stretcher. When she walked in the house, I gave her a sheet of paper with the vitals and SAMPLE on it. She replied, in front of the patient, the crew, and her mother, (who is also a good friend of mine and holds a senior position in the county EMS system), "You don't need to be on the ambulance right now. Just go." She threw away the piece of paper and went through SAMPLE/vitals again. I had to walk about a half mile back to the station.
Here's how I see it:
--I screwed up by not just apologizing and getting it over with, even though I didn't do anything.
--She screwed up by repeatedly letting her anger at me interfere with patient care.
What would you do in my shoes?